Fuck me like a Dirty Slut. Treat me like a Princess afterwards. (BDSM Aftercare)

If you're getting into any form of BDSM, you'll need to learn proper aftercare. Aftercare is the attending to the emotional and physical needs once a scene is over. Most people associate BDSM with the physical aspects of the scene: The floggers, whips, rope, chain, and the like. However, there are many mental aspects and those need to be considered during every scene.

♡ THINGS TO DO IN AFTERCARE ♡

• Taking off all BDSM gear – like blindfold, ropes, or restraints
• Moving the sub somewhere comfortable and warm (off the floor)
• Cleaning, disinfecting, applying medicine, and dressing any injuries
• Applying any lotions, aloe, cooling creams etc. to make the body feel better
• Offering painkillers, vitamins, supplements or antacids to deal with pain, lactic acid build up, or loss of nutrients
• Wrapping the sub in a blanket or bathrobe to counteract the body’s temperature drop (if you’re worried about your sub overheating, use a breathable fabric or something lose with holes, like a knitted or crocheted blanket).
• Offer water (don’t force them to drink)
• Offer chocolate (if the sub can have it) to take care of blood sugar levels
• Juice or power drinks are a good alternative to chocolate
• Hugging, cuddling, caressing
• A soft and gentle voice from the Dom/Domme
• Reassurance that everything is okay
• Offering praise
• Reassurance (if the sub feels awkward about their kinks) that they are normal and their pleasures are nothing to feel ashamed about
• Offer a reassuring and gentle touch to a part of the body that wasn’t affected by the scene
• Make sure participants are serene and positive
• A phone call or meet up a day or two after an intense scene to talk about things and make sure everything is okay
• Have a warm bubble bath with candles
• Put the sub in their favorite comfortable clothing
• Watch a movie the sub likes
• Journal writing
• Being left alone to reflect or even meditate

Remember, everyone is different. Some might need very little, while others might need a lot. It’s not for a Dom/Domme to judge what’s right or wrong – rather to take care of their sub.

 ♡ TOPS NEED LOVE TOO ♡

Aftercare isn't just for bottoms and submissives — tops and dominants need love and care, too! When we play, it is for enjoyment and pleasure for all parties involved. The submissive has a responsibility to take care of the Dominant just as much as the submissive needs care.

♡ COMMUNICATION FIRST ♡
Prior to engaging in a scene it is wise to negotiate forms of aftercare. People need different things and it’s important to recognize and compromise on the level of aftercare that individuals need following a scene.

• If you are new play partners, you must discuss/share what aftercare is needed.

• If you’ve played often with your partner, you might just need to quickly double check nothing has changed.

• If you’re new to BDSM, it’s better to start slow and try things that aren’t as intense. Afterwards, you’ll need to talk during your aftercare to share what works and what doesn’t.